Meet Your Coach: Forest Soleil

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Dharma is the philosophy that everyone comes here to discover Truth and their unique Life Path as we move toward our Higher Self.  To live your dharma is to understand what has most held you back from living your best life - toxic habitual patterns, limiting beliefs, stagnant energy, pain and suffering - and transform that thing into your beautiful medicine to share with the world. 

I feel that my dharma is in communication, authentic relating and spiritual inner work. Because I operated from an unconscious or reactive place in those areas for most of my life until I harvested the fruit with my bare hands and turned lemons into the best damn lemonade this side of the equator. 

I was raised by two parents who genuinely loved my sister and I but who had not themselves learned tools and practices to consciously parent. Our household was violent and dysfunctional, with many layers of abusive interpersonal dynamics between all family members. As a highly sensitive empath and indigo child in this environment, I had a challenging time. I repressed my feelings, sometimes avoided communication and conflict and other times instigated it, didn't know what boundaries or needs were and was not equipped to relate with others in a centered way. I experienced intense feelings across the spectrum. Most notably, anger and frustration. I teetered between anxious people pleasing and reactive defensiveness as coping mechanisms. 

As I transitioned to young adulthood, living on my own in college and forming intimate relationships with friends and my romantic partner, I noticed how these patterns continued and negatively affected my ability to be fully seen, heard, felt and understood - and to fully see, hear, feel and understand others. Fears and insecurities crept into my mind. Narrow perspectives limited my beliefs. Assumptions triggered my defensiveness. My pain blinded me and separated me from wholeness. I realized I was the common denominator in my experience and my relationships and sought solutions to avoid the pain of continually running on a hamster wheel, relating in the same way and inevitably getting the same results. I wanted to have balanced satisfying relationships, to feel joy, to boost my confidence. I wanted my friends, family and lovers to feel I was approachable and willing to move through difficult conversations. I wanted to face my fears. To be more honest and for others to be more honest with me. I wanted to be ME rather than be who I thought everyone wanted me to be. Who was I? Who am I? Who am I becoming?   

My conscious awakening was catalyzed by heartbreak. What an eye opening experience to have my partner leave. To feel the depths of that shock and despair completely. And then to realize leaving was truly the most loving thing he could do - to set boundaries and model choosing self love and respect. 

I ultimately sat with my shame, got to know myself, transmuted the pain and healed whole. The process took years and many more potent lessons along the way. A second heartbreak years down the road catalyzed my clarity of mind and my realization that I had been using mind altering substances like alcohol and sugary processed foods to numb my social anxiety and repress my emotions.  I now help others to identify their toxic cycles, heal the root cause of them, implement practical tools for conscious living and manifest into reality the life of their dreams. 

I am grateful for the opportunity to awaken at a young age. To remember. To realize. And ultimately to plant seeds of inspiration that catalyze awakening in my Sisters and Brothers.   

I am so blessed to have found functional tools that have had a profound impact on my metamorphosis. Authentic Relating, Deep Listening, Meditation, Kundalini Yoga, Inner Child Work, Positive Affirmations, Herbalism, Sacred Plant Medicine and Spirituality have been my saving grace. If you feel the calling to explore your depths, to love and accept yourself more fully and to show up in your highest potential as you relate with others in the world, I would be honored to work with you. This is my path and my purpose. I am here to guide you back to your inner all knowing self.   

With the purest Love and Light, ​Forest